You've all heard of "positive education" and you have your own opinion on the matter. Some people have a wrong idea about positive education, thinking it leads to laxity, when I think it is compatible with a strict education. I consider babies & kids as little persons who have to learn not to fit in the society but to be able to interact with the world and be themselves. Positive education and benevolence are good tools to help them to bloom. As parents, we have to help them facing their weakness and develop their qualities by positive education and benevolence. Mindfulness is one of the tool we can use.
"If you fail, it means you tried" Everyone of us as failed sometime. An exam, a competition, a contest... It happens and it's fully part of life. By trying and failing sometime, we learn. It's a process of life. However, it's important to rephrase for your kids when it happens to them. So they don't see it as a failure but as a training and won't be afraid to try new things. "Yes, this time, you might not have achieve your goal. It happens. But you tried, that's the most important. You'll keep training and another you will try again, and again. And someday, you'll get there"
When your little one is in pain it can lead to big drama. Pain can be ruff to manage for us as adults, so imagine what it is doing to a kid mind. "Pain will go away. It's like a rainy day, you might think it will last forever but the sunshine always come back"
"Accept both compliments and criticism. It takes sun and rain for a flower to grow" It's important for a child to understand things can not always go is way and sometime he/she could have done better. As a adult, we need to address them both compliments and criticism and explain him why.
Sometime everything seems big, too big for our little ones who feel really small. Remember your perception of the world when you were three apple tall and the frustration to not be able or allowed to do something because of your size. In this situation, it can be helpful to remind your kid that "Even the tallest oak of the forest was once an acorn"
"Love cannot be shared, it multiplies" Agnes Ledig This one could definitely be useful for a sister or brother to be when welcoming a new addition to the family. It's important that kids integrate the idea that the more you love and the more people you love and the more your have love to give. Try to explain them love as gardening. Every time you plant a seed of love, it grows and will give more seeds as you cultivate it. Kids are person the same way adults are and they should be considered as such. It's important for them to know they are allowed to express themselves when they like or dislike something. I think we should not force them to do something they don't like or at least explain them, even if they don't like something, why they have to do it. "Explain gently what you don't like and shout loud what you like"
Life is going on for all of us and as adults, parents, professionals... we can be very busy and not spend as much time with our little ones as we wished. Some day are filled with adventure, trip to the zoo, craft activities together... but other days will be more routine. So it's important to remind kids to take pleasure in everyday and treat each of them like the best one. "What day it is ? Asked Pooh. It's today. Squeaked Piglet. My favorite day, Said Pooh" AA Milne
"I don’t love studying. I hate studying. I like learning. Learning is beautiful." Natalie Portman Everybody can get tired of studying some time to time, even more kids. However, if we manage to pick their curiosity and approach studying like learning stuff about the world around them it might make the task easier.
When a moment in their life or a task they have to do seems unsurmountable, don't let them face the big picture at once (this advice applies to adults too). If you divide the task into little tasks it will be easier. Like to tidy a bedroom, go with a Step by Step approach, one task at a time. “Nothing is particularly hard if you break it down into small jobs.” – Henry Ford / “It always seems impossible until it is done.” – Nelson Mandela
We will all face challenges in life and kids are no exception. Even in our daily life, we can face frustration, failure, drama... Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do to change the event. However, it's important for children to understand they chose how to react to an event. It's not easy but possible to not let outside event affect your inner world. “You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have.” – Jim Rohn